On today’s Recovery Now, Jen Lever and Lori started off talking about the dynamic of reintroducing a recovering loved one into your life. They discussed the difference between understanding vs trusting, and choosing to go through the process to find healing. Jen told us about the four stages: paranoia, cautious optimism, optimism, and confidence, and how to restore years of broken trust. She also told us it’s okay to proceed while what-ifs are going through our minds.
Next, they highlighted how confidence builds, and how to check on your loved one to make them accountable. They mentioned how the recovering person needs help with follow through in their treatment, and the difference between healthy and unhealthy responses. Furthermore, how to lovingly validate and support them to do the right thing.
They added how to be prepared before something goes wrong, and learning to find balance. They also discussed common sense reasoning skills, recognizing ulterior motives, excuses about behavior, and when to end an unproductive discussion. Finally, Jen shared what it means to feel like a prisoner in your own home, and the anxiety that can be felt feel when someone asks how your loved one in recovery is doing. Listen in and hear more about it!